Bro, ali positive thinking chahiyo. Negativity only breeds negative results.

K-town,

Lemme tell you one thing, If  you are frustated with life then Why did you come to USA? You probably thought america ko rastrapati will give you warm welcome with FulMala in the AIRPORT?  Dude Life is tough over here and you have to keep on struggling. Then one day you will realize the It was worth it.

testo frastu hunu bhaina yar.... huna tah mah pani kyai advice dine awastha mah tah chuina tara ni just live this phase...it wont get worse then this so it will get better...hope to hear something positive from you

Ktwon bro,

Think of your future children instead of sons. That was a typing-slip; I'm not a sexist.

Good suggestion commando! The episode 3 of Mahabharat is a gr8 pratical suggestion.

Gangster bro! There is nothing beautiful as hope because we use it (hope) to heal our "self." When we hit the rock bottom the only place we can look is up.

Here are some thoughts hoping it will make some sense to you in a positive out-look

"If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Cherie Carter-Scott

In workshops and retreats, on photocopies and emails, on noticeboards and

fridge doors, the 'Ten Rules for Being Human' have been spreading round the

world like wildfire, so, in all probability, you've already seen them. In case you

haven't, they're brilliant, and here they are, together with Cherie Carter-Scott's

summary of how you can use them as a primer for higher consciousness.

Rule One

You will receive a body. You may love it or hate it, but it will be yours for the

duration of your life on Earth.

Rule Two

You will be presented with lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal

school called ‘life.' Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to

learn lessons. You may like the lessons or hate them, but you have designed

them as part of your curriculum.

Rule Three

There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation, a

series of trials, errors, and occasional victories. The failed experiments are as

much a part of the process as the experiments that work.

Rule Four

A lesson is repeated until learned. Lessons will be repeated to you in various

forms until you have learned them. When you have learned them, you can

then go on to the next lesson.

Rule Five

Learning does not end. There is no part of life that does not contain lessons. If

you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

Rule Six

‘There’ is no better than ‘here’. When your ‘there’ has become a ‘here,' you will

simply obtain a ‘there’ that will look better to you than your present ‘here’.

Rule Seven

Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about

another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.

Rule Eight

What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources

you need. What you do with them is up to you.

Rule Nine

Your answers lie inside of you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

Rule Ten

You will forget all of this at birth. You can remember it if you want by

unravelling the double helix of inner knowing.

Summary

Your time here on Earth is brief. Time passes and things change. You have

options and choices in which to make your wishes, dreams, and goals become

reality.

When you ask yourself, ‘Why am I here?’ or ‘Why is this happening to me?’ or

‘What's it all about?’ turn to your spiritual primer. Ask yourself, ‘What is the

lesson?’ If you hear a defensive reaction using the words ‘never’ or ‘always’ in

your response, you haven’t yet learned the lesson. Next, go a little deeper and

ask, ‘What is there for me to learn from this experience?’

Each time you view your circumstances as possessing value, regardless of the

apparent confusion or hardship, you grow. Your personal evolution will

depend on how readily you embrace your lessons and integrate them into your

life. Remember, the only consequence for resisting lessons, is that they will

keep repeating themselves until you learn them. When you have learned a

lesson, you will always be tested. When the lesson is learned, the test will be

easily passed, and you then move on to more complex and challenging ones.

You can look back on the incidents in your past and see clearly the lessons you

have learned, resisted, and are still repeating. ‘Yesterday is history, tomorrow

is a mystery, and today is a gift, that is why we call it the present.’

It is more challenging to look at your present situation and see exactly what

your lessons are. Looking into the future is the most difficult. Wishing that

you had already graduated from the school of life does not accelerate your

progress or make the lessons any easier. Examining the situation for the real

lesson is the scavenger hunt.

Remind yourself that you are here to learn lessons. Be present with your

process. Pay attention to what you are experiencing. Be diligent with actions

which enable you to ‘get' the lessons presented to you. Ask for answers and

you shall receive them. Listen with an open heart. Explore all options. See

your judgment as a mirror. View each crisis as an opportunity. Trust yourself.

Believe in yourself. Look within yourself, to your higher self, for guidance on

all your choices. Extend compassion to yourself.

Remember, there are no mistakes, only lessons (Rule Three). Love yourself,

trust your choices, and everything is possible!

From If Life is a Game, These are the Rules, © 1998 by Cherie Carter-Scott,

published in the UK in 1999 by Hodder & Stoughton."

 

People always advice you to do this and you will feel alright............ or think that and you will be fine. But brother jaba samma saaday saath lay choddaina kai garay ni sukha paidaina. In Nepal we all were extrovert never had a chance to look within ourselves, over here eklai basdaa basdaa introvert baiyo. Thought process change bhayo. Timi jastai ma pani, depression ma thiya. Everything was worthless and pointless. Advice dinay lai heray ra dayaa lagthiyo 'muuuujjjjeee lai kai thaha chaina, 2/3 otta aru lay bhanay ko inspirational line bhanay ra chita bujhaya ko dekhera'. 

Gangster Bro, I know exactly how you are feeling. It's scary how similar our thoughts are (well, for me it was how I felt a couple of years ago). Trust me bro, things will get better. That doesn't mean that you will get everything that you dreamt of as a child, that just means that you will learn to be complacent and start appreciating what you have. As bad as you situation is, you still have enough to eat, a place to sleep and access to a computer. What % of the world's population do you think has those things? The most important thing for you is to stop regretting and thinking of what life would have been if you had done things differently (like not coming to the US). What's done is done, be proud of the decisions you have made and the lessons you have learnt. Also, stop comparing your life with others (eg Americans). Focus on your life, don't compare your life with others. And most importantly, start exercising for at least a few minutes everyday. That will help relieve a lot of stress.

Take this from someone who a couple of years ago felt exactly the way you are feeling right now--- things will change for the better. Please stop focusing on the past and how things could/would have been. Think of the future and how you can improve it. As bad as things seem right now, things will change. Just hang in there, bro. It's just life. No big deal. Remember that everyone feels this way at a time or other. Just hang in there.

thanks for the positive reinforcement guys, at least yeah i feel like i should suffer now then bring happiness to my Nepalese people in Nepal, teach them good stuff that I learnt in US

Compiling some positive energy hoping that it will help someone somewhere @ their course of life adventure NOW!

Source:www.pickthebrain.com/blog/how-to-motivate-yourself

Staying motivated is a struggle — our drive is constantly assaulted by negative thoughts and anxiety about the future. Everyone faces doubt and depression. What separates the highly successful is the ability to keep moving forward.

There is no simple solution for a lack of motivation. Even after beating it, the problem reappears at the first sign of failure. The key is understanding your thoughts and how they drive your emotions. By learning how to nurture motivating thoughts, neutralize negative ones, and focus on the task at hand, you can pull yourself out of a slump before it gains momentum.

Reasons We Lose Motivation

There are 3 primary reasons we lose motivation.

1. Lack of confidence – If you don’t believe you can succeed, what’s the point in trying?
   
2. Lack of focus – If you don’t know what you want, do you really want anything?
   
3. Lack of direction – If you don’t know what to do, how can you be motivated to do it?

How to Boost Confidence

The first motivation killer is a lack of confidence. When this happens to me, it’s usually because I’m focusing entirely on what I want and neglecting what I already have. When you only think about what you want, your mind creates explanations for why you aren’t getting it. This creates negative thoughts. Past failures, bad breaks, and personal weaknesses dominate your mind. You become jealous of your competitors and start making excuses for why you can’t succeed. In this state, you tend to make a bad impression, assume the worst about others, and lose self confidence.

The way to get out of this thought pattern is to focus on gratitude. Set aside time to focus on everything positive in your life. Make a mental list of your strengths, past successes, and current advantages. We tend to take our strengths for granted and dwell on our failures. By making an effort to feel grateful, you’ll realize how competent and successful you already are. This will rejuvenate your confidence and get you motivated to build on your current success.

It might sound strange that repeating things you already know can improve your mindset, but it’s amazingly effective. The mind distorts reality to confirm what it wants to believe. The more negatively you think, the more examples your mind will discover to confirm that belief. When you truly believe that you deserve success, your mind will generate ways to achieve it. The best way to bring success to yourself is to genuinely desire to create value for the rest of the world.

Developing Tangible Focus

The second motivation killer is a lack of focus. How often do you focus on what you don’t want, rather than on a concrete goal? We normally think in terms of fear. I’m afraid of being poor. I’m afraid no one will respect me. I’m afraid of being alone. The problem with this type of thinking is that fear alone isn’t actionable. Instead of doing something about our fear, it feeds on itself and drains our motivation.

If you’re caught up in fear based thinking, the first step is focusing that energy on a well defined goal. By defining a goal, you automatically define a set of actions. If you have a fear of poverty, create a plan to increase your income. It could be going back to school, obtaining a higher paying job, or developing a profitable website. The key is moving from an intangible desire to concrete, measurable steps.

By focusing your mind on a positive goal instead of an ambiguous fear, you put your brain to work. It instantly begins devising a plan for success. Instead of worrying about the future you start to do something about it. This is the first step in motivating yourself to take action. When know what you want, you become motivated to take action.

Developing Direction

The final piece in the motivational puzzle is direction. If focus means having an ultimate goal, direction is having a day-to-day strategy to achieve it. A lack of direction kills motivation because without an obvious next action we succumb to procrastination. An example of this is a person who wants to have a popular blog, but who spends more time reading posts about blogging than actually writing articles.

The key to finding direction is identifying the activities that lead to success. For every goal, there are activities that pay off and those that don’t. Make a list of all your activities and arrange them based on results. Then make a make an action plan that focuses on the activities that lead to big returns. To continue the example from above, a blogger’s list would look something like this:

1. Write content
   
2. Research relevant topics
   
3. Network with other bloggers
   
4. Optimize design and ad placements
   
5. Answer comments and email
   
6. Read other blogs

Keeping track of your most important tasks will direct your energy towards success. Without a constant reminder, it’s easy to waste entire days on filler activities like reading RSS feeds, email, and random web surfing.

When my motivation starts to wane, I regain direction by creating a plan that contains two positive actions. The first one should be a small task you’ve been meaning to do, while the second should be a long-term goal. I immediately do the smaller task. This creates positive momentum. After that I take the first step towards achieving the long-term goal. Doing this periodically is great for getting out of a slump, creating positive reinforcement, and getting long-term plans moving.

It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter periods of low energy, bad luck, and even the occasional failure. If you don’t discipline your mind, these minor speed bumps can turn into mental monsters. By being on guard against the top 3 motivation killers you can preserve your motivation and propel yourself to success.